HOW TO LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST AND GET RID OF FEARS

"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up".

That hits so bad. Can you imagine how close you were to your dreams before you decided to give it all up after the sixth failure? Maybe the seventh was supposed to work.

Before you start reading this blog, I want you to bear in mind that I haven't written this blog just to post it and to get views, I wrote it because I want to help people to move with their life to the next level, to do whatever they want and not fear consequences. I want you to feel free to consider yourself as you're talking to a friend from which you've demanded some piece of advice.

I can't express the happiness that fills my heart whenever I help someone get rid of everything that could prevent them from living their greatest life. Because I've wasted a huge period of my life living in doubts and fears of judgment and the consequence of my actions. It didn’t feel good at all, I was forced to coexist with evil emotions that filled every part of my veins. I was always stressed about the future, relationships, family, and studies. Literally, my life was falling apart because of emotions and overthinking. I had no choice but to wait for things to get better. This is what we call surviving. I thought that life is only about surviving tough moments. I never believed in living.

If that is the case for you too, then I’m delighted to assure you that you’re not the only one enduring hard stuff and agonizing emotions. It's a part of the process. Admit it.

Okay, this isn’t to say that your life is going to change overnight once you finish reading this blog. You have to take the courage to convert these words into habits and to stick to them.

Move your life in the direction of your dreams.

live your best life by following these simple tips, motivation

Take the courage and face consequences


"Courage is contagious. When a brave man takes a stand, the spines of others are often stiffened".

In life, we’re born in different environments. Some are lucky to have supportive parents who allow them to do whatever they want and to challenge their trepidations with no fears or hesitation. Meanwhile, others were forced to grow up in an environment where anxiety is floating in the air. Everyone is afraid of the future, and the trimmest move toward the dream is considered a huge risk.

As a person who was born within the borders of the second environment, I struggled to face my fears and get out of my comfort zone. I wanted to free myself from others' opinions about me and to behave the way I want. I wanted to talk and express my opinion to a group of people and not care about whether what I'm about to say is stupid or not. I wanted to behave and not think about whether I did something wrong or not. But I had always something holding me to take that risk to change.

Let's make things a little bit funny. I'm going to tell you two stories from my life. These narratives were the reason I could realize that I’m not going to make it anywhere if I keep fear controlling my fate and my decisions.

Situation 1


At the end of my first year of high school, I was in front of a hard decision, which is the choice of the field that I was going to pursue in my study.

There was an easy field which is the physic field and the hard one which is mathematics. Honestly, I hadn't had a great relationship with math from my childhood. But as I grew up, I found myself falling in love with it, and I wanted to take the risk and follow this mysterious world of numbers.

Sadly, I didn't.

When I revealed my decision to my dad, he declined. He didn’t allow me because he evoked the little version of me who was crying after every exam of math and end up getting the last grades in the class in primary school.

Even though I was the first in my class in high school, and the one who gets the first grades in math, I just lost all my confidence. I thought that I’m not good enough and that the consequences would be catastrophic.

I believed that I wasn't smart enough to follow such a hard field. I cried a little bit, I accepted my fate, and I choose the safest option.

When I graduated from high school, I entered an engineering school which was much harder than what I was supposed to study back then if I followed the mathematics field.

It was hard, but it was survivable.

I will be always grateful for my engineering experience because it proved to me that I would've succeeded if I choose the mathematics field in high school.

Situation 2


When I was discovering the freelance world, I acknowledged that people need to investigate their money in order to make it work in that immense world of money.

I was just a student back then, and I hadn't supplemental money to invest, so I adopted these heroic thoughts <>"I will break the rules and do it with zero dollars". Even though the pressure of my studies, I was working so hard to make freelance work for me. But I didn't get any results in return.

Then I started reading stories of people who investigate their money and make wealth. They made me wonder about the reason why I was wasting hundreds of dollars willingly on food, clothes, silly things, etc. But I’m afraid to lose fifteen dollars when it comes to investigating?

After a while, I opened up a Bank account.

For my first time investigating, I was nearly trembling when I was entering my bank card information. I thought that the internet would take me for a fool and steal my money. But once I hit the button "Save", It was just the one dollar that I choose to consume.

Please, don't feel bad when an investigation doesn't work from the first time, but be proud because at least you faced your fears, and the investigation won't look like a monster anymore.

Facing your fears can be a very hard thing to do. But it feels great once you do it, it's like magic. You never know the true meaning of freedom until you face your fears. Clear your mind from the consequences of your action. Just live as if it was the last day of your life and you ought to do what makes you the most afraid before you die.


DO activities to face your fears


"The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear." --Nelson Mandela.

When I was too young, there was a saying in my village that says "the one who fears, survive. It was referred to whenever someone tries to do some heroic movement or try to explore his adventurous side by stepping out of his comfort zone.

As I grow up, I come to the realization that the saying tells "survive" not "live". And that's exactly the purpose of fears, making people forget how to live.

Fears are the enemies of human beings, they are the reason why most people can't fulfill their maximum in life. However, when we were too young to understand life, we were too happy with fear, we witnessed it as our dear friend because he's the one that would keep us away from harm and would protect us inside the castle of our comfort zone.

As we grow up, the conception of fear changes completely. it became our dear enemy. Whenever we say fear, we remember the anxiety, anger, jealousy, future, problems, etc. Then comes the bitter realization that fear is the obstacle to a happy life.

Sadly, even though most people do realize that getting rid of fears is the key to a happy life, they don't seem to have a huge desire to challenge their fears.

Because simply they are afraid to face their fears.

Let's take the traditional example of an employee who endured ten years in a company where he don't feel right and good, he survived 10 years doing something he never wanted to do and when someone comes and asks him:

"Why haven't quit the company and done what you want"

He'll answer:

"I was afraid of what may happen. I was afraid of the consequences"

That's the problem with us, we're always afraid of what may happen if we did that thing. The reason is the pessimist mentality that makes us believe in bad thoughts and distract us from positive reflections. This man would see nothing but losing his income and how ruined his life would become if he loses his job.

If you're one of those who were forced to survive tough jobs, then listen to me very well. Instead of visualizing the inconveniences of challenging fears, why don't you see the good side of it? Why don't you see that you would make a successful project if you abandoned that job, that you would live the life you always longed to live, that you would make your family happy and get out of the misery?

When you start facing your fears for the first time, don't start with important things such as changing your house, job, or partner. Me, for example, I just wanted to face my fear of taking the train alone. Yeah, I always thought that I would be lost if I took the train alone and that I won't reach the destination because of some problem or that I won't find my way home. But once I was on the train alone, I realized that traveling alone is another kind of peace.

Also, I used to fear walking alone in the street because I thought that everyone is watching me and are wondering why this girl is all by herself and if she has no friends. One day, I spent a one-hour road from school to home all by myself and I can't tell you how great it felt. I find out that it was a great way to adjust my thoughts and my relationships. Also, it was an opportunity to negotiate with my mind and to repeat some positive affirmations. I realized that I could build a great friendship with myself just by walking alone.

Challenging fears doesn't need to be a big thing at first, Start with little things and then move the immense ones.

what kind of fears you can face:

public speaking

talking in class

intervention in a conversation

take a trip alone

give your opinion

say no to what you don't like

Stay alone

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Believe that nothing limits you in this life


"Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!

Have you ever passed by that situation when you're revealing your dreams to someone, and he just stared at you with that underestimating look sying through it:

"Really dud, have you ever heard of thousands who tried before you and failed?"

Yeah, it's easy to feel frustrated because of people.

They can tell you that you're not smart enough to be a doctor, engineer, etc.

They will tell you that you're not beautiful nor tall to be a model.

They will tell you that you're not good enough to make success in life or a good living.

Listen to me very well my dear friend, I know that you may not be as smart as that person, or as qualified as that entrepreneur. But you know what, YOU CAN WORK. You have a mind and you can use it. As long as you can put hard work into something, then you're great.

Don't limit your capacities or underestimate yourself just because someone told you that you're not good enough. Other's opinion doesn't represent who you are but who they are. Thus, from this moment on, you have to believe in yourself, take the courage to work on what you love, don't give up when you fail, take persistence as a friend and work on your goals even when it doesn't give you any income.

Dream Big

Don't be afraid of saying that you want to become a millionaire, a best seller author, a famous actor, or a businessman/woman. Since others made it, you can do it too.

As a last piece of advice, when you work on something, let it be the thing that you love, give it all your time and effort but don't wait for big things. Remember always that things will happen when it's the right time for them to happen. Just have a little patience.


Practice self-awareness


“One of the best roads to self-improvement is acceptance of personal mistakes and correcting them as soon as possible.” ― Israelmore Ayivor!

I think self-awareness is an art that nobody knows how to practice.

One day, a little girl told me that she doesn't feel right about her life, and thus she wanted a magic way to change it. She explained to me her situation and the first thing that comes out of my mouth was: you should practice self-awareness.

Then she was like:

What does self-awareness means?

Simply, self-awareness is being conscious of who are you, comprehending your mistakes and your flaws, and trying to get rid of them.

You may be wondering why should you be conscious of your blunders while coachers say that we should focus on our capacities. I'm going to take myself as an example to make things clear. I never wanted to admit my flaws. I knew that I was an awful runner but I would never accept it, I knew I will never be able to rehearse everything in my field but I was always stubborn to admit it. I knew that I'm not a good public speaker but I wouldn't admit it.

Once I read about self-awareness, I started to confess who really I am. I permitted myself to feel what she is, to feel weak when she is, to feel stupid freely, to accept herself when she doesn't get what she wanted, to feel good when she loses at something. I taught myself to love and admit it when she felt like a loser.

This is self-awareness, it's when we get deep into ourselves to define our values, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, strengths, and weaknesses.

When you practice self-awareness, you accept yourself as it is, and thus you became happy with who you are. you understand that you don't need to be super or to be great in life in order to say that you're great.

Denying your flaws will only tense them and make you less confident about yourself. You can't enhance yourself unless you confessed your bad behaviors.


Build a healthy routine


Routine is one of the most important things in human life. I'm sure you've already crossed those motivational speeches where the title is something like "The routine of the most successful people in the world"

I can assume that you roll your eyes with boredom every time you see such a title, and then you start wondering "How can a routine be the reason for a successful life?"

In fact, it can be. I assure you.

Lets' take the example of two routines:

Routine number1 :

Wake up at 6

Take a healthy breakfast

Read books for one hour

Do sport

wake up at 6

Work for 2 hours

Take a break (walk, play games, exercise your hobbies)

Work for 3 hours

Take a brea

A meeting with family

Work for another 3 hoursy

Read books

Sleep early

Now, let's move on to the second one

Wake up at 1 pm

Take a late breakfast

Scroll the media for 2 hours or more

Waste your time in a nearby coffee with some friends.

wake up at 6

Return home at a late time, play games for 3 hours or more.

Watch Netflix all night and sleep at 4 or more.

Wake up late the next morning.

It doesn't matter if you couldn't get used to your routine from the first attempt, you need time to get used to it. Waking up at 6 pm isn't manageable from the first attempt.

I'm going to reveal a little secret that helped me so much to wake up early in the morning. When it's 6 o'clock, my mind feels too lazy to wake up since it's still dark, and I want more sleep. But I remember that 'm 2 additional hours of sleep won't make any difference.


Visit a village, your grand mother house or any open space


Whenever I feel stressed about life, the future, and my studies, my first refuge is my grandmother’s house where I can feel warmth and peace. I try to forget about anything that bothers me and enjoy the fresh breeze in the air.

I pick my favorite book, I choose a quiet place between the warmth of flowers and read my book with the most peaceful mind ever.

When I’m there, I get rid of my glasses and I give my eyes the chance to breathe freely.

When I’m there, I detach myself from the real world and forget about all my worries and my deadlines.


Build for yourself a hobby


I’ve talked before about the importance of building for yourself a hobby and sticking to it. Because hobbies add a new flavor to life, they give it meaning. I can assure you that once I started reading books, my life changed completely.

Believe it or not, happiness feels in my heart whenever I remember that there are still books to read.

Having a hobby that we enjoy brings us joy and enhances our lives. It gives us something fun to do during our free time and affords us the opportunity to learn new skills and develop new habits.

cultivating a new hobby isn't as hard as expected. Don't think that a person is born with a hobby in his veins, it's something that we develop with time. You can find great hobbies in the world, and once you find a hobby that you truly enjoy, you will become hooked to it.


Do what you love


"If you do what you love, you'll never work a day in your life. Marc Anthony

In a few words, doing what you love hits different.

When you do what you love, you became the happiest version of yourself. Doing what you love in life doesn't differ from the medicine that will heal your life and get your health back to you. Doing what you love in life has so many positive effects, and here are some:

You will notice a reduction in your stress level.

You will feel fulfilled.

Your life would have a meaning.

Positive energy will feel your body.

It will improve your health.

Increased productivity

You will start loving Mondays. Could you ever imagine that Monday would feel good? of course not because it's always related to a hard day of work or study. I can guarantee you that once you start doing what you love, even Monday would pierce differently.

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Forgive others and avoid jealousy


"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." - Jonathan Huie.

So many people underestimate the importance of forgiveness. I've met with people who preferred holding a wave of huge anger and envy toward others living in an enormous castle of stress and jealousy than forgiving.

whether it’s a simple conflict with your spouse or long-held irritation toward a family member or friend, forgiveness is always a choice.

Surely, it's not easy to forgive someone who does you significant hurt, and I'm not telling you to go to that person and tell him that you forgive him for his faults. But what I want you to do is to forgive him within yourself. So here is what you need to do, instead of conserving bad emotions inside of you because of someone, just take a deep breath and release it.

When you hate someone, you keep thinking of him and all the clumsy things that you could do to him to convert his life into hell. I have known people that were so drowned in the sea of revenge that they lost their happiness, health, and themselves. They permitted a great hole in their hearts.

Research shows that forgiveness has a positive impact on humans' life:

It can lower depression

It protects your heart

It can help you reach your potential.

And so many more.

Just imagine the success you could achieve in your life if you stop hating others. You would start focusing on yourself and your abilities.

Just live as if the other doesn't exist. Get away from the one that causes you that hurt, and start living your life.


Get rid of toxic people


“People inspire you, or they drain you. Pick them wisely.” – Hans F. Hasen

Toxic people can ruin a whole life. And I can guarantee that to you.

It's not hard to recognize a toxic relationship, it's that one where you don't feel right when you're acting yourself, where you are always afraid you'll do something wrong and the other part would judge you. Toxic people are those who would criticize you for the smallest mistakes.

I'll make things a little bit tense.

I'm going to talk about my experience with toxic people.

When I was young, I didn't believe in bad or evil. I thought that everyone was good and kind and would do only good things. But as I grow up, I understood that things aren't what I thought of them. I met with some really bad people.

I didn't realize the big effect of these relationships on my health so I attached myself to these relationships thinking that bad people would change in the end. And then I've come to the realization that I was just hurting myself by sticking to such relationships.

I know that getting people out of your life is not as easy as it seems especially if we're talking about close friends. I know that saying "NO" to a relationship felt bad. Hurting the other one's emotions isn't easy stuff.

Listen to me very well my friend, What I'm about to say may seem rude. But when it comes to your health, prioritize yourself always. I Once read in a book that if someone truly loves you and he knows that he causes you to hurt, he will leave.

Just think of it, why would you bear a relationship that brings you nothing but discomfort because you're afraid to hurt others' emotions.

It's okay if things aren't easy from the first attempt. I used to be the prisoner of bad relationships just because I was afraid to hurt others' emotions if I get away. But once I realized the catastrophic effects of these relationships on my health, I retired.

Live is too short to care for others ' emotions and to neglect ours.

Trust me, once I got rid of every toxic relationship, my life changed completely, and here are some positive effects of getting rid of toxic people

Freedom

Happiness

Purification of the mind from toxic thoughts.

Inner-peace


Write a list of your qualifications:


I'm just going to give you an example of my own list and it's up to you to create your own:

I'm so confident

I trust my ability to shine and succeed.

I'm courageous, audacious, and strong.

I can get out of my comfort zone without any fear

I'm a hard worker, and I can achieve hard tasks on my own.

I'm an optimistic person. I believe in good and good will come to me.

I'm so talented

I'm great

I learn fast

My life is full of good things

I can be my best friend


Here is some others tip that may help you live your life to the fullest:

1. Create a budget and take a trip in the summer.

2. Enjoy life, buy what you want, and remember that we’re not immortal.

3. Build confidence(read motivational books, watch ted talks, read blogs)

4. Say No

5. Find good in bad things and situations.

6. Start a project.

7. Spread love

8. Don’t regret anything

9. Believe that everything happens for a reason. Even bad things.





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