“...love is a skill, not just an enthusiasm.”
by Loubna elhajji | 06/10/2021 | 10:31:56am
Warning: every couple should read this book before thinking about marriage.
The Course Of Love Summary 🌻
The course of love by Alain De Botton revealed what true love means by describing the life of the two main characters: Rabih Khan, an architect from Beirut, and Kirsten McClelland, a surveyor from Scotland.
These two people had met at work, in a place where they immediately fall in love with each other.
After few meetings, they decided that was enough for them to know each other, and they finally concluded that it was time to build their life together. Thus, Rabih had requested Kirsten's hand from her mother who had accepted Rabih as her daughter's husband immediately since she loved him from the first sight. However, the life of a married couple wasn't the same as they were expecting, it wasn't full of the love they were living before, and it wasn't full of the surprises they were doing to each other. Briefly, it was a different life from the one they were living before, but that doesn't mean that they started to hate each other. People who love can never hate again. However, their life became a dull married couple life full of fights, empty discussion, misunderstandings, wife problems, husband problems, kids problems...
The course of love by Alain De Botton wanted to show us that there is no eternal love, there is only love and it takes so many faces depending on the situation. In other words, what Rabih and Kirsten felt after their marriage was love but in another aspect. They loved each other but not in the same way they used to do when they were out of the marriage box.
From The course of love by Alain De Botton, I realized that misunderstandings happened just because Kerstin didn't talk about what she didn't like about Rabih favoring the idea that the problem is coming from her husband and not from her. But she didn't realize that living with such an idea leads to nothing but hate toward her husband Rabih, and too many misunderstandings, and sometimes divorce as a final point.
In The course of love by Alain De Botton, you will understand that couples' problems are unavoidable. The problem is that most people don't know how to deal with them, which leads to a hard breakup in so many cases. Thus, to build a great couple there are too many things the two partners should do. However, in my modest opinion and from what I've learned from this book, I think that there are two important things the wife and husband must follow before thinking about anything else, which are: listening and confessing to each other all the time. Being sincere to each other, tell the things hidden in the chests, they never know if the other part was waiting to hear something.
Yes!! Only simple actions can completely change the path of a married couple.
The course of love a novel or a book? 🌻
So many people are wondering whether the course of love is a book or a novel since Alain De Botton is known for non-fiction books. Nevertheless, The Course Of Love is a pure novel about love and relationships. Through the course of love, Alain De Botton wanted to show the importance of love in human life and how it should be treated by parteners.
“We should add that it is a privilege to be the recipient of a sulk: it means the other person respects and trusts us enough to think we should understand their unspoken hurt. It is one of the odder gifts of love.”
“The partner truly best suited to us is not the one who miraculously happens to share every taste, but the one who can negotiate differences in taste with intelligence and grace.”
“I will never be able to do or be everything you want, nor vice versa, but I'd like to think we can be the sort of people who will dare to tell each other who we really are. The alternative is silence and lies, which are the real enemies of love.”